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Sat Nam. I wanted to share with you an aspect of the technology of Kundalini Yoga that has been supporting me greatly through some major transitions I am going through as a mother and as the founder of a business.

Transition Number 1: I have a 14 year old son. Fourteen is not an easy year. My son is going through the normal but difficult challenges of entering adolescence, and I am going through the normal but difficult challenges of being a parent to a son entering adolescence. The old strategies don’t work. Our familiar ways of relating and communicating are no longer appropriate. My desire to stay close and connected – through touch, talking, doing projects together, spending time together – are all things that he is rejecting and resisting. My maternal instincts have been stymied, and, not knowing what else to do, I just try harder, yell louder, force “quality time”, etc. Which just creates more resistance from him, and more frustration for me.

As a practitioner of Kundalini Yoga, I have an incredibly large and diverse set of tools available to me to use on myself when I find myself up against a wall. It usually takes a little bit of time for me to remember to use them, but when I finally do, I find that they usually work better than any other set of tools available to me. Yogi Bhajan said, “All therapies, and all help, and all knowledge are going to be absolutely obsolete. People need immediate self-exalted experience. And that is what the whole essence of human life is.”

Somewhere along the way of studying and practicing Kundalini Yoga, I had heard about a Shabd (a section of the Sikh holy text) known as Poota Mata Kee Asees, or Mother’s Blessing. I didn’t know anything about it, but it seemed relevant to what I was up against. So I found the words and translation, as well as some beautiful recordings (see the Spirit Voyage website for both: http://www.spiritvoyage.com/mantra/Poota-Mata-Kee-Asees/MAN-000156.aspx) and began learning the Shabd.

The poetry, the quality of hope in the words, the unconditional love and dedication emanating from this Shabd, written in 1500s, satisfied that deep mother’s longing I had to love, uplift, and elevate my child. I could no longer wrap my arms around him in a hug, but I could send him all the love and well-wishes I had to give, through the help of this prayer. I chant it while he is sleeping, I chant it while he is in class at high school, I chant it while he is playing those video games that I hate. He doesn’t need to know I’m praying for him (in fact, it’s better if he doesn’t.) It feels like a secret but powerful way that I can connect with him in a way that doesn’t create resistance or frustration for either of us. And, it has released that pent-up maternal energy, so that I can just love and accept him for who he is in this moment of his life, remaining available and present when needed, but not being pushy, codependent, or afraid, when I am not.

Yogi Bhajan spoke of the shabd in this way during a lecture to Women’s Camp in New Mexico in 1977:

“Jesus asked Mary if Joseph was his father. She told Jesus, ‘Your father lives in the heavens.’ This Jesus wanted to know, and knew when he was so little. During the entire life of that individual, the Heavenly Father was his father. Who was Mary? She was a very very divine mother who could create her son to be a Christ, who was pure.”

In this way, Yogi Bhajan is reminding us of the power we have as mothers to uplift our children, to create heaven on earth by our prayers and love for our children. He said there is nothing more powerful than a mother’s prayer for her child. I feel so grateful that this Shabd is available to us, especially when nothing else seems to be working.

My son and I even took a 5 day road trip together…with no blow-ups or frustrated moments! We both enjoyed the time together out of the routine, exploring the world together, and spending untold hours together in a car. A true miracle.

 

Transition Number 2: During the time that I’ve been chanting the Shabd for my son, a major and unforeseen transition was forced upon me regarding The Adi Shakti Center and my livelihood. It became clear to me that I would need to move my yoga studio, and that my business would be going through it’s second major shift since I opened it less than four years ago. So, while was chanting Poota Mata for my son, I also began chanting it for the Adi Shakti Center, since Adi Shakti feels like my child, my creation, something I gave birth to, which entered the creation through me. Again, I found a way to send unconditional love and hope to an entity which I could not directly control or manage. This was so helpful in releasing my anxiety, fear and anger around what had happened and what would happen to her. And without missing a beat, I found a transitional but beautiful location to continue to hold Kundalini Yoga classes in, just ½ mile away from the old location, on incredible retreat center land. Wahe Guru!

Finally, one other aspect of healing that has come to me through chanting this Shabd regularly, is that I get a chance to chant to myself, my own inner child, that aspect of myself that needs mothering, comfort, support and elevation. To see myself as the Divine Mother sees me. To heal the part of myself that felt unseen and ignored by my own parents. To give myself the love of the Divine. This has been the deepest part of the healing. And for all of this, I am so grateful.

Here are the words in Gurmukhi, as well as the translation, of this Shabd written by the fifth Sikh Guru, Guru Arjun Dev Ji.

Pootaa maataa kee aasees.  O my child, this is your mother’s blessing:

Nimakh na bisara-o tum ka-o har har   May you never forget God even for a moment,

sadaa bhajahu jagdees.   worshipping forever the Lord of the Universe.

Pootaa maataa kee aasees.  O my child, this is your mother’s blessing:

Jis simrat sabh kilvikh naaseh    Remembering God, all mistakes are washed away,

pitree ho-ay udhaaro. 

 one’s ancestors are redeemed and saved.

So har har tum sad hee jaapahu   Always chant God’s Name, Har, Har,

jaa kaa ant na paaro.  God is inside you, God is infinite.

Pootaa maataa kee aasees. 

 O my child, this is your mother’s blessing:

Satgur tum ka-o ho-ay da-i-aalaa   May the True Guru be kind to you,

santsang tayree preet. 

 may you love to be with the Saints.

Kaaparh pat parmaysar raakhee   May your clothing be the protection of God,

bhojan keertan neet.   may your food be the singing of God’s praise.

Pootaa maataa kee aasees.  O my child, this is your mother’s blessing:

Amrit peevhu sadaa chir jeevhu    Drink the nectar of God’s Name and live long,

har simrat anad anantaa. 

 may meditation on God bring you endless bliss.

Rang tamaasaa pooran aasaa    May love be yours and your hopes fulfilled,

kabeh na bi-aapai chintaa.    may you never be worn by worry.

Pootaa maataa kee aasees.   O my child, this is your mother’s blessing:

Bhavar tumaaraa ih man hova-o 
   Let this mind of yours be like the bumble bee,

har charnaa hohu ka-ulaa. 

 and let the Lotus Feet of God be the flower.

Naanak daas un sang laptaa-i-o  O Servant Nanak, link your mind in this way:

ji-o booNdeh chaatrik ma-ulaa.    Like the songbird finding a raindrop, blossom forth in song

Pootaa maataa kee aasees.    O my child, this is your mother’s blessing:

Nimakh na bisara-o tum ka-o har har   May you never forget God even for a moment,

sadaa bhajahu jagdees.  worshipping forever the Lord of the Universe.

Pootaa maataa kee aasees.  O my child, this is your mother’s blessing

 

 

Sat Nam. And may the love and healing contained in these words uplift and elevate your children, your projects, and yourself. Rachel Surindejot Kaur Zelaya.

A Mother’s Blessing: Using the Technology of Mantra to Elevate Your Children, Your Creative Projects, and Yourself
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